Is it difficult to talk about being woman?
Nowadays, it’s really hard telling the truth about what feminine is and what truly means.
Our Vanessa flies without fear – like one of the books I will recommend to you – above prejudices and stereotypes, approaching to a new bay, a new town, a new life.
Being a woman isn’t a matter of body or feminism.
It’s a matter of life.
Enjoy the selection for this month, all with a strong V on it.
Not that kind of girl – Lena Dunham
I saw Girls many years ago and I was fascinated by the brutal honesty of the show and their characters: humans with all human features, no one excluded. So, it was with big pleasure that I approched to the memoir of the author of that show, the marvellous Lena Dunham.
There’s everything: what means to be a woman in a society that defies you, what means exploring sexuality in a world that threats your inner desires and passions, what means to built a carrier when also your women colleauges don’t want to ally with you or share your opinions or ideas in wide light. But firstly, there’s what means to be a human being, the one and only thing that matters when it comes to women and men. Read it and explore yourself with her.
Tampa – Alissa Nutting
Lolita meets American Psycho in this beautiful and heart-wrenching story of a woman and her strong passion for little teen boys, the one that you see playing basketball in yard and talking about sex even if they’re virgin. A teacher and her lust for her students, painted with cruelty and cinism. Why did I put it here? Because sometimes exploring our sexuality means going deeper and deeper without inhibitions. Also, it talkes a lot of how we perceive feminine sexuality and women’s desires in our society.
Delta of Venus – Anais Nin
My first approach to sex and erotic novels was with this book, a collection of short stories that explores sex in every shade and perversion. An enciclopedy of kinks and feelings, like hate or love or lust or aphaty. It’s one of the first erotica literature written by a woman that wasn’t afraid to talk about her desires and sexuality, vaginas and other women’s body parts. She finally put woman in the centre of her own feelings and awaked her.
Read it, you’ll understand a lot of things on what really means desire and exploring it.
The Vagina monologues – Eve Ensler
I didn’t want to think about vaginas (simply because I’ve got the gay, you know) but it is important that we do. Thinking, reading, talking about vaginas in a feminist way, that’s what I’m here for. We use the word penis in so many different situations and variations, but we never say “vagina” out loud. We hardly ever think it and when we do, we cringe and lower our voices, as an insult. Why is that? This tiny book holds the power to not only normalize, but to praise and strengthen the way we treat and talk about vaginas, which praises and strengthens females as individuals in our society.
Fear of flying – Erica Jong
The premise of Fear of Flying is simple: Isadora Wing is in a marriage she isn’t happy with; her husband isn’t especially warm to her, nor he is incredibly supportive of her career.
While on a trip in Vienna, Isadora fantasizes about being with another man, and this book is more or less about those fantasies – what they mean in the context of her marriage, her entire love life, what they mean for women in general.
The importance of Fear of Flying is Jong opening up the female mind, showing people: this is what we think about, worry about, these are the problems we have, these are things on our minds where men, careers and lives are concerned. You may not always agree with her or have the exact same problems, but I would be astounded if any woman gets through this book without finding anything she can relate to.
Vagina. A new biography – Naomi Wolf
This books is divided into three major areas: the science behind sexuality and specifically female orgasm, a brief history of how western civilizations have perceived of women’s sexuality, and a discussion on how sexuality and creativity are linked.
Wolf’s style is open, kind, and inviting, even to people who are leery of reading anything “feminist.”
Wolf moves into the realm of science and starts unpacking the big picture of female lust and sexual response, including orgasm. She explores recent research and physiological realities to detail the ways that we really don’t know the truth behind being woman in physical and psychological way. A little compendio for everyone to discover what the big V hides.
We should all be feminists – Chimanda Ngozi Adichie
This little phamplet resumes the TED conference where Chimanda Ngozi Adichie talked about women and their role in our society. The title say it all: we should all be feminists, we should all root for equality, for human beings, for feelings and love. Because being feminist means being for equality between men and women and not a category overwhelming another.
Little but rich of thoughts and real truth about our world.
Memoirs of a dutiful daughter – Simone de Beauvoir
This beautifully deep and intimate account of one girls journey into early womanhood is both a fascinating and intelligent read. From her young spirited days as a child, to an intricate student life to the beginnings of a blossoming friendship with Jean-Paul Sarte, Simone would become a leading figure in the roots of both feminism and existentialism.
Superbly written, it kind of reads like a coming-of-age novel, and it’s so personal and heartfelt, you start to think it’s an intellectual story rather than an actual real life, but a real life it is, a courageously defiant account of a woman breaking free, and showing a determination to follow her own path, not one already mapped out for her.
How to be a woman – Caitlin Moran
Caitlin Moran reminds me of Lena Dunham: shameless, outspoken and irriverent, her memoir is just like her, a mix of contrasted feelings on growing-up and understanding that it isn’t exactly the best place to be a woman. Many chapters made me laugh – especially the one about the strip club – and others made me really think about what is like to be a strong and empowered woman when everyone around you threats your stability. Her memoir is an out loud ode to what means being woman without the stereotype features of being it. Read it, because i twill open your eyes.
Big little lies – Liane Moriarty
Liane Moriarty is a good author when it comes for good thrillers about families and frustrated wives and their weird children and husbands. But this one… has me shooked.
It began with a slap: a little boy slapped a little girl at school and this event starts a war between school moms, but especially between women.
The three main characters are beautifully descripted in their weakness: there’s sex abuse, there’s women and carreer and there’s pregnancy and motherhood. All feminists themes are here, all you have to reflect on is here: read this thriller and think about what being woman is.